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[00:00:00] The decluttering and organizing industry have it all wrong. They teach that you need to declutter and organize at the same time. But the problem is that that advice is meant for people who are in the maintenance phase of their home. But nobody's saying that. The professional organizers and the de cluttering and cleaning influencers and experts that you see on social media, they're not saying that their advice is not going to work for someone who's at ground zero.
Speaker 2: Hello, hello, and welcome to the Take Charge of Your Home Show. The podcast helping you trade in clutter and the messes for peace of mind and sanity, so you can have more time to make memories with your kids and the freedom to enjoy a nice evening to yourself every now and then amidst the chaos of never ending to do's, dinners, and diapers.
We're saying goodbye to the hot mess mom life and instead [00:01:00] creating house Holds that are both sustainable and supportive of thyou'reves that we want to live and the things that we want to do. And I am so excited to share that we have a free decluttering challenge coming up to help you break the clutter cycle and create more breathing room in your home and your life.
It's all taking place the first week of June inside of a private Facebook group, and we're gonna go big. There will be hundreds of people coming together to make a massive change in their homes. And you're going to walk away knowing exactly what to do to get a neat and tiny home that gives you more breathing room once and for all.
So you're definitely going to want to click on the link in the show notes to save your seat. Now let's get back to our show.
So when you're at ground zero and you're at the beginning phases of trying to take control of a messy and cluttered home, and you're following professional organizers and decluttering and cleaning experts and influencers [00:02:00] and you're following this advice and they're telling you that their solutions will get you a tidy home. They're not saying that it's not going to work for somebody who's at the beginning stages of the process. So what ends up happening is you're led to believe that you need to be doing all of these things randomly, you end up thinking that these magic solutions from this expert and this. Influencer and this author and this coach, you're led to believe that you need to piece all of these solutions together, and just do your best, just do the best that you can to make them all fit together. And we need to put a stop to this right away. Because trying to tidy up all day long, somehow clear away the accumulated clutter, and organize what's left leaves you literally spinning in circles. So you're [00:03:00] stuck in a loop of constantly tidying the same messages, only for your house to be trashed again within another week. You need to declutter, but you can't seem to keep a clean house so that way you can even figure out where to start decluttering, and organizing is pointless because you still have a bunch of stuff left down that you don't even know what to do with. So there's no point in doing any of that. What's crucial to recognize here is that there are too many different concepts and strategies and solutions, and you've been trying to do them all without a plan in place. Like pinning, organizing ideas on Pinterest and trying new cleaning routines, tidying up all day long, de cluttering a random drawer, organizing your paperwork, finding new productivity hacks, and organizing ideas and decluttering checklists and watching clean with me YouTube videos, and really just looking for advice from [00:04:00] different corners of the internet. All of those solutions what's happening is they're creating temporary masks, instead of truly solving the root problem. And there's one tiny little reason why none of those solutions will ever work. Because none of those solutions were made to fit together. They were not made to help someone take their entire home from messy and cluttered to calm and organized. Those solutions and strategies and tactics uh, were created with one goal in mind. Tidying was developed to help us put things back where they belong. Organizing was developed when a group of professional women wanted to help other people organize and contain all the things that they had been acquiring during the rise of consumerism in the mid eighties. And decluttering, well, that [00:05:00] became a thing when professional organizers realized that people had too much stuff in the nineties and they really needed to purge what they no longer needed before they could organize it. And who knows where cleaning came from, because that's obviously been around for hundreds of years. Right.
But my point here is that none of those methods we're made to fit together, which means that when your house is at ground zero, When it's both messy and cluttered, doing them all sporadically and randomly is not effective. And I get why you've been doing this, you're doing this because society and these experts and these authors and these pro organizers, they're teaching you and leading you to believe that you need to do quote, unquote, better. But here's what I really want to point out to you. Is that if you [00:06:00] were to do all of these things better, Like you've been trying to do. You would spend any given day trying a new morning routine, unloading the dishwasher, decluttering, tidying, doing laundry, making meals, teaching your kids to put their things away, trying to refine your own habits, cleaning the kitchen, and then trying to squeeze in an organizing project before bed. Every freaking day, just to keep a tidy home.
And the reason why this is the case is because you see influencers and pro organizers and de cluttering experts sharing on social media, how these solutions fit into their day. And your committed, so you end up doing the same thing. But the key thing to remember is that those solutions are always going to work super well when someone is in the maintenance phase of their home life. When [00:07:00] they just need to keep their house tidy, when they just need to de clutter a few times a year, when they only need to reorganize certain areas you know, during the back to school season and after the holidays, for example.
But on the other hand, when you're starting from square one, When you're starting at ground zero, when you're at the beginning phases of taking control of your home, you need to prioritize one home life concept, one solution, one strategy a t a time. This is what I call taking charge of your home in phases. And it is the key to finally getting your house in order. To finally clearing away the chaos in trading in the piles for peace of mind.
So instead of always tidying up, you will start by going all in on overhauling, the messes from your entire home until you've fully mastered [00:08:00] it. Then instead of trying to declutter and organize at the same time sporadically, you will first focus on clearing away the clutter. From your entire house, one step at a time. Starting with easier items, and then slowly working your way up to the harder, more emotional sentimental items. You will do that for every room in your house until you have fully mastered it and you have fully cleared away all of the clutter. Then once you have purged and decluttered your entire home, then you can go all in on getting organized. And then from there, once you've. Feel fully satisfied with being organized, the final phase of the process is the maintenance phase. And this is what I was just referring to earlier when you just need to declutter a few times a year. You just need to learn how to refine your habits and get your family on board so you can easily maintain a tidy home uh, [00:09:00] consistently, no matter what life throws your way.
Now taking charge of your home in phases is a game changer. Because you're mastering each of the main home life concepts before you move on to the next one. But even more than that, it's a game changer because it simplifies what you're doing and it helps you be intentional because there is so much that needs to be done to get your house in order.
Like tackling the mess and finding somewhere to put all the homeless items. Developing a routine to stay on top of the laundry and the dishes. Maintaining and managing the never ending paperwork, deciding what to declutter and what to let go of, breaking emotional attachments to sentimental items, clearing the mental and emotional clutter so you feel worthy of having a clean and tidy home. [00:10:00] Organizing your mind and staying on top of everything that you need to do from one day to the next. Organizing your life so you can get things done, making out the door on time, reach your goals, and continuously improve yourself. And organizing your home so you can easily find what you need and have beautiful orderly spaces with everything labeled. There is also teaching your kids to help out, and getting your partner on board. And nipping the digital clutter in the bud so you can clear away the hundreds of thousands of emails and photos and text messages and voicemails and endless to do's. It also is all about refining your habits so you can learn to put things away when you're done using them. It's putting an end to the retail therapy so you can stop new clutter from coming into your house. And finally, it's also creating a lifestyle change so you can maintain a peaceful household [00:11:00] that runs smoothly for the rest of your life.
So all of these things, this is all what falls under the umbrella of your home life. And I'm not sharing this list to scare you off, but to bring awareness to exactly how much is required if you want to go from struggling to keep a tidy home, leaving things left out, avoiding the laundry and the dishes, feeling like a hot mess, and always running late, and living on fast food.
If you want to go from, from there, to being able to easily keep a tidy home that runs like a well-oiled machine, to being able to stay on top of the laundry and the dishes like a boss, even when you don't feel like it, becoming a naturally organized person who knows right where everything is and runs her household like a pro. Someone who saves money on groceries and is able to model to her kids how to be mindful of [00:12:00] their things.
If you want to go from one side to the other. If you want to go from being a hot mess with a chaotic home, to being a naturally organized, present wife and mother and daughter and human, then all these things that fall under the umbrella of your home life, you need to have a way to unify them. You need to have a plan to unify everything, you need a simple and easy home management solution, to take you from cluttered and overwhelmed, to calm and peaceful. So with this all in mind, all these things that fall under the umbrella of your home life, it's no wonder why trying to do it all randomly isn't working.
That is why instead, when you're able to simplify what you're doing and tackle your home in phases, you don't have to worry about [00:13:00] any of that. You don't have to stress about teaching your kids to clean up after themselves because you'll know with certainty that that will come later on in the process.
And on another note, another reason why this method is the proven way is because, if you think about it logically, it doesn't even make sense to try to teach your kids to clean up after themselves when you're at the start of your journey. Because up until now, you have not modeled to them that you're taking care of your own home. And they're only going to do what they see you doing. So if they have seen you for their entire lives, Avoiding the clutter and the piles, they're going to do the same thing. And again, that's not your fault. It's because you were not given the proper tools to help you get your home in order until now. It is what it is. [00:14:00] It's something that we must accept and move forward and commit to making a change. So if that's what you've been doing before now, if you've been avoiding all the chaos, but you're trying to teach your kids to clean up their room when your room is a disaster, they're just going to roll their eyes at you and feel like they don't really need to listen to what you're saying.
As another example, when you're tackling your home in phases, you don't have to try to learn to put things away right when you're done using them. Because you will know and you will understand that that falls underneath your habits. And refining your habits comes in the fourth phase of the roadmap.
So this entire roadmap, this system, this home management system is called the Peaceful Home Roadmap. And it is truly the proven way to get a peaceful, organized home, even if you've been trying for [00:15:00] years. There's four phases, the overhaul phase, the declutter phase, the organize phase, and the maintenance phase. The good news is that we're going to go over each of these phases and what they all entail during the breathing room decluttering challenge so that way you can know exactly how to get a tidy, peaceful home that runs on autopilot and gives you hours of free time every single week. Just go to the link down below in the show notes, click on that link, enter your name and your email, and you will receive a link to join our private Facebook group, where we have a week's worth of live training sessions, prizes, fun, and accountability. So go ahead and join the challenge and I will see you there. Bye.
